Guys, I have a question to ask you: Have you ever fantasized about going out on a date with a shemale? Are you surprised to know you’re not the only straight man who is attracted to shemales? And, most important, would you be able to overcome your inhibitions or your reluctance to being with a woman who has a penis so you can enjoy a potential relationship with a shemale?
Many men have overcome their disinclinations and have accepted their attraction to transgender women. They realize they are powerfully attracted to women with vaginas, which explains why they are drawn to shemales. As a result, there has been an explosion of dating sites on the market that cater to men who like shemales and want to date them.
A shemale is considered a transgender woman who hasn’t yet undergone gender reassignment surgery. She is a woman who is still endowed with male genitalia. Legally, though she has a cock the law recognizes her as a woman. Shemales often keep their male genitalia since they’re already considered women in the eyes of the law. Besides, trans women know men prefer them with their genitalia intact, which allows them to be more creative in the bedroom.
Dating a shemale can be a fun, eye-opening experience. However, once you’ve succeeded in landing a date, there are some things you should know before meeting her. So first, let’s talk about some of the advantages of dating a shemale.
Shemales Love Being Women
A trans woman has been through things that most of us never had to suffer through: feeling uncomfortable in her skin. Before she committed to hormone replacement therapy and potential future reassignment surgery. After years of self-alienation, shemales can enjoy being the women that they are. At last, she feels comfortable in her skin. She’s where she wants to be, so she brims with self-confidence and excitement.
You will find most shemales aren’t shy about their bodies. They love to flaunt their sexiness and show the world they love who they are. If date night is somewhere public such as at a restaurant, people will notice the beautiful woman holding you close. A transgender woman takes care of herself, making sure she wears the best outfit to advertise her assets and taking meticulous care of her hair, body, and choice of makeup.
A Trans Woman Knows How to Please a Man
It is often tricky for heterosexual women to know what turns you on. But a trans woman, endowed with the same genitalia as a man, understands male anatomy and finds a male’s excitation points. Any partner, especially shemale partners, uses her knowledge to bring on the most pleasurable sexual experiences and making for a memorable night.
Your shemale date most likely knows that this is your first date with a woman like her. She will be sensitive and take the time necessary to make you feel comfortable and arouse yourself. At the same time, you should give the pleasure she wants by understanding a few positions that will stimulate her body.
New Experience for Both of You
If this is your first experience, it may also be new for her if she is a newly transitioning woman. You will know where she is after talking with her before your date. Feel her out, daks as many questions as you need, and expect her to ask you intimate questions.
Some women in transition have already grown breasts, while others are new and at an earlier stage of change. Ask yourself which kind is more sexually attractive. Choosing what you like is essential both for you and her. If she starts on this journey, she imagines herself as a young and inexperienced girl, and you the man in her life. One can imagine the erotic impact this has. She will never forget you were there for her during the most challenging part of her journey.
Dating a shemale can bring about a fundamental change in what sexuality means to you and also bring about a change in yourself. Gender categories will become less important as you feel the physical satisfaction of satisfying one of your deepest fantasies.
Cons of Dating a Shemale
I said earlier that a trans woman had gone through a lot in her life before she committed to the change. Whether at the beginning or middle of reassignment, she is undergoing hormone replacement therapy, which can profoundly affect her mood. These hormones are the root cause, and if not understood, can put a strain on a relationship.
She is now going through what all of us experienced during puberty: hormones working overtime in our bodies the moment we reach puberty and how confused and unbalanced felt by every pubescent teen. On top of that, the hormones she takes counteract her body’s testosterone, allowing her feminine qualities to come out. Along the way, she may experience moodiness in her bouts of joy and sadness. It takes a solid person to undergo gender reassignment.
Expect to have moments of tension in your dating life with your partner and know that the suspense arises not because of anything you said or did, nor is it her fault. The blame lies entirely with the hormone medication she is taking. Therapy is something you both will need to understand until it gets under control. Be empathetic.
Whether physical or verbal, abuse is common for shemales while they are growing up and on into adulthood. She may have been the victim of hate crimes. She may have wanted to undergo surgery to complete the process but hasn’t afforded it. When she fully identifies as a woman but still has a penis and a scrotum, she can feel the same alienation from her body she felt when she started her journey.
Stigmas and Labels
Many people assume a man is gay when he dates a shemale or is in a relationship with her. You may ask yourself if you’re gay because you enjoy your transgender woman, but the answer each time is a resounding, “No.”
Although some homosexual men date shemales, the vast majority identity as hetero. A transgender woman is wholly different from a transvestite man since a transgender person identifies as a woman, while a man who likes to wear women’s clothes is still a man.
Anal sex is a critical component in shemale dating, but that goes both ways. You may enjoy being penetrated by a shemale as much as you like penetrating her. Neither of these activities defines you as gay. Stay open about the subject and have discussions with her to make you both feel more at ease.
Shemale Sex
If you’re familiar with sex positions with a female who has a vagina, then you already how to engage in sex with a shemale. However, both of you have a penis, which opens up the possibility of adventure and exploration like never before, allowing you to perform acts you couldn’t do with female genitals. Here a few examples.
- Butterfly: You or your date lie in the bed while the other stands at the foot. The one standing spreads your legs wide and enters you while you masturbate. This position offers incredibly hot eye contact
- Fingering and blowjob: One of you lies on the bed while the other is perpendicular, giving a blowjob. While she provides oral to you, you stroke her with a finger between her butt cheeks. Remember that the area around the anus, called the ‘rim,” is sensitive and excitable, just like a woman’s clitoris is sensitive.
- Rimjob: In this position, you or she lie on your belly while she is behind you. She spreads your legs and licks between your butt cheeks, and flicks her tongue around the rim of your anus. Again, you will feel an and unique and intensely pleasurable sensation that may be addictive.
There are hundreds of various positions you can try. Imagine facing each other while she has both of your cocks in her hand, squeezing them together and rubbing while you face each other!
Conclusion
It is our human nature to get excited about having new experiences. Our lust for adventure and trying something we’ve never done before is built into our DNA. As a result, you will find dating making love to a transgender woman like nothing you’ve ever done before, and you might like it so much that you’ll wish to pursue a relationship with her.
Dating shemales has gained acceptance in the last few years, but some people will never understand beyond the attraction of male genitalia to female genitalia. We hardly understand the human brain, but we know now that it is flawed in determining gender every time. So letting go and accepting your shemale date for who she says she is, is the first step in building something incredible and satisfying.
There are dating websites for guys to meet up (or hook up) with a shemale partner. Some of the best we’ve found include:
- Butterfly: a large site, it’s specifically designed for long-term partnerships. It’s also private and keeps information confidential.
- TSDates.com One of the oldest dating and hookup sites, TSDates.com has a diverse user base and is inclusive of new men, and for others, more experienced in dating shemales.
- Adultfriendfinder.com: This vast site has over 80 million users and is; -inclusive, regardless of where you are on the gender identity scale. The shemale dating part of the site has grown enormously in the last five years.